What hit me?
The fact that once you are aware of something, you cannot become unaware of it. It’s impossible.
Something within you shifts.
A change has been made.
In order for that change to happen though, you have to be open to change.
Open minded shall we say.
Now if you are like I was, the thought of doing something different or outside of your comfort zone fills you with fear.
Fear of the unknown, most likely.
Fear of not being able to do what it is that you would like to do, but are scared to risk being successful.
So rather than putting yourself out there, you play safe and hide away.
This usually ends up in frustration!
What would happen if you did put yourself out there, and went ahead with what you were thinking of doing?
What would happen if you just did it. Just went after what it is you wanted to do?
Are you worried what other people think?
To be honest, what other people think of you is none of your business.
It’s all theirs and they’re welcome to it.
Do you really want to carry the thoughts of others around with you anyway?
Don’t you have enough of your own to be going on with.
When other people pass judgement on what you’re doing, it is a reflection of them and their thoughts feelings and fears.
Who are they to decide what YOU are capable of anyway?
In fact who are ‘THEY’ anyway?
What happens is that they project their map of the world onto your situation, but the problem lies in the fact that we are all reading from different maps, because we are all on different journeys.
I think it was Henry Ford who said, “whether you think you can or can’t, you’re right”
You see, whatever the thinker thinks, the prover will always prove.
Self fulfilling prophecy anyone!!
So, you’re running about trying to please everyone and fit in, whatever that means.
I guarantee that you’re not happy, but you keep desperately trying.
Hanging your happiness on someone else’s approval is really just waiting for the trap door beneath your feet to open.
It’s out-with your control.
Let’s flip things around for moment…
What would happen if your happiness was your responsibility?
What would it feel like to become aware of that?
Happiness from the inside out. Relying on yourself, rather than someone else for approval?
I think I just heard that trap door being bolted shut.
How do you find happiness on the inside?
Follow your passion. Do what you want to do with your life.
Do what is in alignment with you. Be authentic.
Stop pretending to be/do something which you’re not.
Listen to your gut… It’s your guidance system.
If you have a feeling that something isn’t quite right, where in your body do you feel it?
In the pit of your stomach perhaps?
It’s trying to tell you something!
You have an innate ability to be OK.
That’s they way you came into the world.
Your default setting if you like.
When we stop doing the stuff that bends us out of shape, we go back to being OK.
The ironic thing here is that you don’t have to do anything to be OK… just stop doing whatever it is that’s
Does that make sense?
What stories are you telling yourself?
Imagining all sorts of scenarios?
Playing out all sorts of he said, she said dramas?…
Really? just STOP IT!
It’s all just a story… You’re the one that’s constructing it, you’re writing the script, playing the scary music.
Knock it off… change it, twiddle with the settings… you’ll be surprised how that’ll change things for you.
Where are you living?
In the past or the future… One has happened and can’t be changed and the other is hasn’t happened yet and is influenced by what you do in the NOW!
You can only live in the NOW, nowhere else.
Be still for just a moment.
Feel the moment… Breathe in deeply.
OK, quick recap
1. Stop making stuff up.
2. See number 1.
3. You automatically go back to being OK when you stop making shit up.
4. Listen to your gut.
5. Happiness comes from the inside out.
Until the next time…